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Ramadan Intentions

O you who believe! Fasting is prescribed to you as it was prescribed to those before you, that you may (learn) self restraint. ( Al Baqarah, ayah 183)
How well do we know about the blessed month of Ramadan?, as it is fast approaching, it is time to start thinking and preparing, to start rectifying wrong thoughts and actions, it is also time to start taking the small steps in eradicating bad and sinful habits, so that by the time this amazing month falls upon us, our souls shall be ready to accept it and we can truly feed it what it is constantly yearning for. We tend to neglect our souls very much, as everyday life and activities tend to over shadow that which is truly important, at the end of most days we just want to get home and relax. When have you ever said to yourself ‘I cannot wait to go home to read some Quran’? When was the last time you unplugged the phone just so that you can sit with Allah, undisturbed? Have you even considered putting the kids to bed early for the sole purpose of pondering over Allah’s creation? Considering most of us will say probably never to any of these questions then now is the time to start, before it is the eve of Ramadan and you are still in the same state that you have been throughout the year, busy, unprepared, unorganised, stressed out and so on. Preparing for this Holy month with children is easier than we think, especially if we are ready in good time. Planning is an important aspect of anything that we want to succeed in, the month of Ramadan we know is an important month, fasting is a rewarding act, inwardly and outwardly and in order to gain that reward we have to start training, that way we can find a strategy that best suits us. For example, if we begin with the supererogatory fasts, even just once a week, on that day we actively prohibit ourselves from all that which is wrong or harmful to ourselves and those around us. At the end of each fast write down what you know you adhered to well and where you also took a slip, remember we are not perfect but we can always aim for that which is en route to perfection. After a few of these voluntary fasts, compare your notes and see the areas that you need to improve on, do not only make these days the days that you are actively seeking better character but make it a point to adopt this vigour in all your affairs, day in day out, if you are true to yourself then you will definitely note changes. If it is anger towards one person make your efforts to convert that anger into a good act, give a gift, charity, smile. Take heed that whenever you give in goodness you are not depriving yourself of anything, and if you don’t see any outward gain then remember that, the best reward is with Allah.
Fasting makes you give up those things that you are so used to, snacking, chewing gum, having a sip of water, possibly some bad verbal habits, this list can be very long!, many of us make renewed vows of areas we shall never again enter or certain friends we shall make a concerted effort to avoid, this is not a bad thing, as long as we realise that consistency is the key to reaching our ultimate goal, consistency in our good acts. Whenever we make these vows we should remember our good intentions should far surpass a fixed period of time, they should begin to form an important part of our character. Our children are one of the best blessings that we could ever have hoped for, during Ramadan they should become a part of all those things that go to make the most special of months, the most rewarding one. There is no one piece of advice that will apply to all on how to make your Ramadan a successful one as we all have different homes, different lifestyles and different ways of bringing up our children but certainly we have learnt on this beautiful journey of parenthood that planning and organisation is a vital aspect of any happy home. Plan to be with Allah and organise your life so that you are prepared for this meeting!

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Posted by on June 3, 2011 in Uncategorized